A painful marriage
always sends the faithful spouse to prayer and seek His
guidance. And prayer, sometimes with fasting, leads to fresh
power. Prayer leads to God's plan of action. The spouse who is
trying, who is praying and working on the marriage, can make an
appeal to the one who is not. Jesus taught an important
principle about losing to win. "For whoever wants to save his
life will lose it, but whoever loses his life for me will save
it" (Luke 9:24). This principle applies in a hurting marriage.
The person who loses life by following Jesus' teaching and
example in a troubled marriage wins real life in Christ.
world system says, "Don't put up with that garbage. You have
rights, too. I know this single person who is really lonely. Let
me introduce you." Your friends will say, "Get out. Haven't you
Even good marriages are sometimes marred by
adultery. Human weakness and moral decline make many spouses
vulnerable targets for the evil adversary.
the Lord forgave you" (Col. 3:13). Forgiving others is not a
suggestion, it's a command. The amazing miracle of forgiving
others is that it stops our pain. When we release our offenses,
they quit hurting us. If you want to forgive you look to the
Cross to grasp how the Lord Jesus forgave you.
or husbands would love to have the perfect husband or wife, an
impossible goal. All husbands and wife are less than perfect.
The only successful method for creating an ideal spouse is to
become one yourself.
What you need to do when your
marriage is in trouble?
When your marriage is in
trouble, when you are the only one who will try, wear the full
armor of God (Ephesians 6:10-20). Take your stand against the
devil's schemes to destroy your marriage. Put on the belt of
truth and make honesty and integrity your way of life. Never
tell lies. Wear the breastplate of righteousness, receiving
Christ's righteousness and living in right relationship with God
and, as much as possible, with your spouse.
Lift the shield of faith, which stops the
enemy's surprise attacks. Put on the helmet of salvation, the
full deliverance from sin and from lasting damage to your mind.
Grasp the sword of the Spirit, the spoken Word of God that gives
you just the right words at the time you most need them. Buckle
on the boots of readiness, always ready to move into spiritual
battle with the gospel of peace. Let peace in your marriage be
the good news of Christ you bring. Let the peace flow from your
forgiveness, your repentance, your identity in Christ and your
freedom. Then pray always, in every way the Holy Spirit leads.
You can achieve your goal to become a godly man or a godly
Marriage was not your idea but was
So God created man in His own image; in
the image of God He created him; male and female He created
them. Then God blessed them, and God said to them, “Be fruitful
and multiply; fill the earth and subdue it; have dominion over
the fish of the sea, over the birds of the air, and over every
living thing that moves on the earth.” Gen 1:27-28 Matt 19:6 So
then, they are no longer two but one flesh. Therefore what God
has joined together, let not man separate.
Marriage is exclusive relationship
And He answered and said to them, “Have you not read that He who
made them at the beginning ‘made them male and female and said,
‘For this reason a man shall leave his father and mother and be
joined to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh’? Matt
Marriage is a purposeful relationship
And the Lord God said, “It is not good that man should be alone;
I will make him a helper comparable to him.” Gen 2:18
God hates divorce
this is the second thing you do: You cover the altar of the Lord
with tears, With weeping and crying; So He does not regard the
offering anymore, Nor receive it with goodwill from your hands.
Yet you say, “For what reason?” Because the Lord has been
witness Between you and the wife of your youth, With whom you
have dealt treacherously; Yet she is your companion And your
wife by covenant. But did He not make them one, Having a remnant
of the Spirit? And why one? He seeks godly offspring. Therefore
take heed to your spirit, And let none deal treacherously with
the wife of his youth. “For the Lord God of Israel says That He
hates divorce, For it covers one’s garment with violence,” Says
the Lord of hosts. “Therefore take heed to your spirit, That you
do not deal treacherously.” Malachi 2:13-16.
marriage is still in its earliest stages, you are sure to have
some painful memories. One of the best ways to deal with these
hurtful times with one another, or with others, is to forgive.